Divorce was like that monster lurking under the bed. Sometimes you dive into bed, feet barely touching the ground, sometimes you have enough courage to lift the bed skirt and take a peek, and sometimes you just sleep with the light on. The monster is always there, you know it and you feel it, and you fear it. For me the monster didn’t grab me or surprise me, it just tightened its grip until left without a choice I had to face the monster.
Like most who have faced this monster, I’ve been to therapy, counseling, friends, family and support groups, however, there was nothing out there that was a comprehensive approach to divorce. I looked for a How-To Book with practical advice on how to hire and manage your attorney. a how to effectively deal with your emotions(making a voodoo doll and calling your ex a Fucking Asshole are not the best ways to deal with the anger). I needed a how to cope on a day-to-day with kids, pets, family and not become as my son calls it a “white wine zombie”. There were other how to’s like how to eat, sleep and keep up your strength and how to deal with the friends(and sometimes family), who take sides and the friends who don’t? The list of How To’s was endless and ever-changing. I sought a safe anonymous space to reveal my innermost thoughts and to hear the thoughts and advice of others who had already fought this monster.
Initially, I began to journal, thinking it was safe(silly me, the monster knows no boundaries). I suppressed and over time knew that eventually, I would journal again, but it would take the form of a blog. There were many times I thought I was ready to start blogging but forced myself to wait because my blogs are not anonymous and I did not want to come off as an angry, deranged woman. I needed to write when the monster was gone and I was embracing a woman free of fear, filled with confidence love and joy – ME!
I knew in my heart that I wanted to help others who had nowhere to turn, who needed help escaping abuse, who needed resources for finances, custody issues, a safe place to live.
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Me – September 2017(above). photo cred. Lacey Wolf
I think we can agree the difference is remarkable. The journey was filled with surprises, not always good, but the outcome for me is wonderful! I am finally the woman my father told me I was.
Me(below) – September 2014.