How to divorce the monster under your bed

Divorce was like that monster lurking under the bed. Sometimes you dive into bed, feet barely touching the ground, sometimes you have enough courage to lift the bed skirt and take a peek, and sometimes you just sleep with the light on. The monster is always there, you know it and you feel it, and you fear it. For me the monster didn’t grab me or surprise me, it just tightened its grip until left without a choice I had to face the monster.
Like most who have faced this monster, I’ve been to therapy, counseling, friends, family and support groups, however, there was nothing out there that was a comprehensive approach to divorce. divorce recoveryI looked for a How To Book with practical advice like how to hire and manage your attorney. a how to effectively deal with your emotions(making a voodoo doll and calling your ex a Fucking Asshole are not the best ways to deal with the anger). I needed a how to cope on a day-to-day with kids, pets, family and not become as my son calls it a “white wine zombie”. There were other how to’s like how to eat, sleep and keep up your strength and how to deal with the friends(and sometimes family), who take sides and the friends who don’t? The list of How To’s was endless and ever changing. I sought a safe anonymous space to reveal my inner most thoughts and to hear the thoughts and advice of others who had already fought this monster.
Initially, I began to journal, thinking it was safe(silly me, the monster knows no boundaries). I suppressed and over time knew that eventually, I would journal again, but it would take the form of a blog. There were many times I thought I was ready to start blogging but forced myself to wait because my thoughts are not anonymous and I did not want to come off as an angry, deranged woman. I needed to write when the monster was gone and I was embracing a woman free of fear, filled with confidence love and joy – ME!
I knew in my heart that I wanted to help others who had nowhere to turn, who needed help escaping abuse, who needed resources for finances, custody issues, a safe place to live.
This site will offer resources, whether just to read my blog, glean the reading list, share your story or find resources in your area.
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About 1stdaydiflife

Who am I? I am just a woman who fell in love at 21. I am a woman who bought hook, line and sinker into the 1990"s hype that I could have it all. A woman whose intention was to be a loving and supportive wife, mother and successful career woman. I am just a woman who could only be the best me doing two of the three at any given time. My 3 beautiful children were and are always the first part of the equation.
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