Living Hell

“I have been thru a living hell in my 30 years of marriage. You all have walked this walk with me, some of you noticed and knew things were wrong, some of you were there first hand, some of you know why and how I have two daughters at this stage in my life. Yet, you never questioned me, never called me a liar. I love you all for that. You have stood by my side, there are those of you who are still in the deep of my life, still helping me to heal.  I paid a price with one man that I will NEVER pay with any other. ”

In the United States alone, thirty percent of Americans say they know a woman who has been physically abused by her husband in the past year. Our reactions as bystanders vary from pretending not to notice, silent support, apathy to judgment. some of us are completely unaware of our neighbors or our friends’ struggle.

  • Women of all races are equally vulnerable to violence by an intimate partner.
  • On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or partners in this country every day.
  • Intimate partner violence a crime that largely affects women. In 1999, women accounted for 85% of the victims of intimate partner violence.
  • On average, a woman will leave an abusive relationship seven times before she leaves for good.
  • Approximately 75% of women who are killed by their batterers are murdered when they attempt to leave or after they have left an abusive relationship.

The statistics are staggering and we can no longer ignore domestic violence. It is real. How can you help?  Support, not judgment. We don’t want to hear, “if a man hit me I’d do this” or “What is wrong with her that she stays”.  What we need, support.  “Yet, you never questioned me, never called me a liar. I love you all for that. You have stood by my side, there are those of you who are still in the deep of my life, still helping me to heal.

Thank you to my dear friend, Tanya, for allowing me to share a sliver of her journey.

http://www.domesticabuseshelter.org/infodomesticviolence.htm

About 1stdaydiflife

Who am I? I am just a woman who fell in love at 21. I am a woman who bought hook, line and sinker into the 1990"s hype that I could have it all. A woman whose intention was to be a loving and supportive wife, mother and successful career woman. I am just a woman who could only be the best me doing two of the three at any given time. My 3 beautiful children were and are always the first part of the equation.
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