Author Archives: 1stdaydiflife

About 1stdaydiflife

Who am I? I am just a woman who fell in love at 21. I am a woman who bought hook, line and sinker into the 1990"s hype that I could have it all. A woman whose intention was to be a loving and supportive wife, mother and successful career woman. I am just a woman who could only be the best me doing two of the three at any given time. My 3 beautiful children were and are always the first part of the equation.

The Reality Of Sexual Assault, Victim’s Rights And The Court Of Public Opinion

“They paraded my panties around the courtroom like a banner of my guilt, my shame, and my horror”. Victim shaming expressions that were once the norm “she wanted it”, “her skirt was too short.” The preservation of victims rights should be top priority and not fodder for personal agendas and quests for power. Continue reading

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Living Hell

“I have been thru a living hell in my 30 years of marriage. You all have walked this walk with me, some of you noticed and knew things were wrong, some of you were there first hand, some of you … Continue reading

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Power Of Coincidence

People come into your life for a reason, sometimes they pop in with a message, either subtly or in-your-face, and then they immediately leave your life. Others are there for a lifetime, weaving in and out and shaping who you … Continue reading

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Silence, the unspoken form of domestic abuse

Silence, the unspoken form of domestic violence. Silence allows the abuse to grow bolder and creates a sense of normalcy. 1 in 4 women in the U.S. are abused every 9 seconds. Speak up! Continue reading

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Message Of A Sociopath

Divorcing a sociopath is terrifying, confusing and has long-lasting devastating effects.  Simply put, You were once the perfect mate and now you are the worst. You do not leave a sociopath, even if they leave you.  Their goal is to destroy you using any means possible, through financial measures, social connections, reputation and/or the ultimate weapon, your children. 3 Obvious signs a parent may be a sociopath. *emotionally harms their children repeatedly, often seemingly on purpose *After hurting them the socio-pathic parent acts like it never happened
*They lie or twist the truth and/or play the victim in an attempt to deny or deflect responsibility. Continue reading

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Battle on the Beach. Why women stay?

Imagine the sun warming your body, the sound of the ocean lulling your mind to the most peaceful tranquil state of existence, a cool drink quenching your yearning thirst, a warm breeze teasing the tiny hairs on your motionless body, … Continue reading

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Mirror, Mirror

Mirror, Mirror, look at me Show the woman that I see Her eyes are soft, but they do not shine Her mouth is full but does not speak Her cheekbones high, her jaw clenched tight Her rosy blush hides the … Continue reading

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