Author Archives: 1stdaydiflife

About 1stdaydiflife

Who am I? I am just a woman who fell in love at 21. I am a woman who bought hook, line and sinker into the 1990"s hype that I could have it all. A woman whose intention was to be a loving and supportive wife, mother and successful career woman. I am just a woman who could only be the best me doing two of the three at any given time. My 3 beautiful children were and are always the first part of the equation.

Seek Truth, Know Truth, Accept Truth

What the world doesn’t need is another spiritual pithy statement, but, lessons come in all forms and what the world does need is more openness and acceptance.  It’s ok to receive, we don’t always have to give.  In fact, if … Continue reading

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How to Divorce an Emotionally Abusive Person?

…the only way to divorce an emotionally abusive person or narcissist is to disengage, find a way to forgive yourself, love yourself and then eventually forgive them. Continue reading

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Oprah, Mother Theresa and The Little Black Dress

Who knew the Golden Globes would serve as my epiphany. Wow!  Many of the women were supermodel thin, glamorous, wore black dresses and were mesmerized by Oprah Winfrey as she held captive the audience for no less than 20 minutes.  … Continue reading

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Tentacles of Abuse

Like an octopus hiding under a rock, the abuser is a master of disguise, obscuring the view of anyone who threatens their control. Continue reading

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Size Matters: 6-0-6

What is your size?  Mine is happy.  Finally, joy after years of quiet acquiescence and resentment to the most ridiculous divorce ever  like the Rockefellers clawing for every gold bar.  Continue reading

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Russian Roulette: A Dangerous Financial Game

those little hairs on the back tingled as I played Russian Roulette and put fiduciary trust in my partner. Blame and ignorance don’t pay the bills Continue reading

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Messages of Shame

One of my ex’s Probation Officers shared a story of a woman who suffered physical abuse on a fairly regular basis. She and her husband were pillars in the community, and other others clamored to be in their circle.  She was … Continue reading

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